I heard about this study on “The View” (a show that has gone down the drain after losing its smart hostesses): women answered a poll about what kind of profession they’d like their men to have and they put military men on top of their list as their favorite kind of man to date.
My theory is that some women may be attracted to “strong brave” types who they think will always protect them…..well, my experience is that some military men can be controlling, not reliable, have PTSD (and that affects the relationship); be mentally or physically abusive and ego-maniacs too. Notwithstanding that those in active duty will be away a lot. I think the attraction to cops, race car drivers and other dangerous profession types could have similar reasons. The big problem I see with any man or woman in the military is that they have all gone through training designed to break down and destroy their natural autonomy. Therefore, they will either be totally given over to the command and control structure in every thought and deed, or will be unhappy and unfulfilled to some extent.
I said SOME you all before you jump on me….
Me, I prefer the boring stable guys. Accountants, economists, doctors, scientists, professors, small businessmen, engineers, computer programmers and anything computer related, government workers, writers…..as long as they are smart. Even a carpenter or a sales person can be smart if they read. Life can be more boring but there will be less drama and ups and downs.
Our country has been going through a period of intense political divisiveness for quite a long time now. The recent years remind me of the late 60’s when you were either a conservative or a long haired hippie. Nowadays Republicans and Democrats may look the same, but their opinions or “wissenschaft” (worldview) could not be further apart. Red States vs. Blue States. Pro-life vs. pro-choice. For marital equality or against gay marriage. Pro-government or anti-government. It seems our political realm is split in half, with little choice for a middle ground.
How does this impact the reality of dating in the new millennium? Well, when it comes to online dating, we readily know if someone votes Republican or Democrat (or is a Libertarian or a Communist) based on information from their profile. It is our choice to contact them or not. Decades ago, the chances of meeting someone with a completely different view were smaller, since people would usually date within their circles. If you were dating in College, chances are your love interest would have similar views with you. If you were dating your parents’ friends’ son, chances are you and him shared a similar viewpoint too.
When it comes to dating someone with a very different view of politics, society and religion, not everyone can pull the James Carville-Mary Matalin card. These very essential issues can become a sore point, and avoiding any talk about politics is quite impossible in today’s information loaded world. Not only you need to exert a lot of self-control and respect for the other person, you cannot gloat or make your point of view the only one acceptable. If you are passionate about politics, this might prove to be mighty difficult.
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