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What you can learn from people on Facebook

I bet there are many masters and doctorate dissertations on the impact of Facebook in our lives. This post is not meant to analyze in detail the impact Facebook has, but to show how much you can learn about people-and cultures-through what people post. A person’s cultural level is rapidly exposed on Facebook. The comments they make, the subject of their posts. Here are some interesting observations about how people use Facebook:

1)      Most people use Facebook to tell friends and family what they are up to. That is, a deodorized and cleaned up version of themselves. Best pictures, showing off accomplishments, showing off their vacations and possessions. You will never see the real person.

2)      Some people use Facebook to vent their personal problems. They like the “public forum”-like a jury-of people giving their input about what they should do about anything-from love problems to how to unclog a sink.

3)      Exhibitionists delight! Particularly women in sexy poses and muscled up men, use FB to show off their bodies and pecs and get lots of attention and praise. Wannabe models and attention seekers love it.

4)      People with an agenda: whether for politics or particular causes, more and more people use Facebook to further an agenda-and find many likewise minded people. In that respect, Facebook, as with all social media, is an excellent way to educate and change minds, perceptions and worldviews.

5)      The religious and lovers of “cheap philosophy”. Usually women (less educated Brazilian and Hispanic women love this) post a lot about Jesus and religion, living their delusion. They also like memes with “positive thinking” and cheesy inspirational sentences that are nice but completely ineffective. That makes them feel “good” but all it shows is their lack of education and culture.

6)      The wannabe comedians. I have some of these on my Facebook and I love them. They have witty, sarcastic and funny lines that make us laugh every day. They are the wannabe comedy writers and should be writing for late night talk shows…

7)      The bad spellers. They abound on social media and you know they never really read an entire book in their lives…

8)      People claim Facebook is not important, but it really makes a statement of who you are and what is important to you. If you don’t want the exposure,  you should stay out of it.

August 22, 2013 Posted by | Difference between cultures, Social Media, Society | Leave a comment

Are men more afraid of aging than women?

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Everyone has heard about the famous mid-life crisis. It is usually more applied to men than to women. We imagine the red sports car, the working out at the gym incessantly and the sudden need to exchange the woman your age for someone who could be your daughter.

I am sure women may go through the same worries about their changing appearance, the need to hold on to the last remnants of youth and assure themselves they are not has-beens yet. Nevertheless, I find women more accepting of age.

One sign that men don’t take aging well are online dating profiles. Take a look at them: almost EVERY middle-aged man needs to say that he looks and feels younger than his age. Also: that people tell him he looks (insert number of years) younger than his real age. People are kind. When the subject of guessing someone’s age comes up, people usually guess much younger to stroke their ego. Add to that the fact that most people don’t look at details: quality of skin, hands, teeth, neck, eyes-all dead giveaways of someone’s real age, no matter how much plastic surgery.

It seems to me women are more self-critical and have a clearer image of what they look like, their imperfections and how old they look. Men are also a lot less self-conscious about their body. They parade around naked and seem oblivious to their protruding bellies or sagging everything. They probably look in the mirror and see an Adonis. That’s why they feel younger women will fall for them, even when they don’t have a hundred million dollars? Because they see themselves as young hunks still?

May 21, 2013 Posted by | Psychology, Social Media | , | Leave a comment

Everyone is beautiful on Facebook

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An interesting aspect of websites like Facebook is that we all post pictures of ourselves. We want our Facebook friends to know what we are up to. We post pictures of special events that happen in our lives, parties, birthdays, social gatherings, our children, family and trips we take. Both men and women, when posting a picture of themselves, know they will receive comments. And a new phenomenon was created with social media: everyone is now beautiful. Look at your friends’ pictures and read the comments: “gorgeous”, “beautiful”, “hot”, “stunning” are often used to describe them. Many times the person is just…average.

Men are also receiving comments on their appearance, something that is usually reserved for women-although men still refuse to compliment another man’s appearance.

I think people feel obliged to say something nice when someone posts a picture of themselves, which is almost an intimate thing to do. We are all exposing ourselves. Can you imagine if people said what they really think of your picture sometimes? “You need to lose at least 10 lbs.”, “Having a bad hair day?”, “You are not aging well, are you?”, “Your friend is so much prettier than you”, “I think you could do better than her” or worse: “My God you are ugly”!

So fake or not, millions of women on Facebook and other social media sites are being called beautiful, hot and gorgeous (and some men too, by women). I think everyone’s collective ego is high in the internet age!

May 21, 2013 Posted by | Social Media | 2 Comments