Brasilmagic\’s Weblog

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The Brazilian viewpoint in the US. This blog is a channel for Americans trying to learn about Brazilians and Brazil. I am not trying to be politically correct, just so you know…

About me: Sociologist, MBA degree, living in the Washington D.C. suburbs.

Liberal with fiscal responsability and accountability. Atheist. I strongly support the Constitution’s mandates on the separation of Church and State.

I support gay civil marriage-same rights to all couples and I am pro-choice.  I also hope one day there will be universal healthcare in the U.S. for those who can’t pay for private care.

Apparently I support all the things that piss off the conservatives so much🙂

Interested in culture, relationships, politics, current events and health issues.

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  1. Initially I was just as excited about Hillary’s run for President. I voted for President Clinton twice and for Hillary twice and even campaigned for her senatorial campaigns in New York.

    As I watched the race, I realized that Hillary is knowledgeable on the issues but there were some serious character flaws. Flaws that weren’t visible during her senatorial campaigns since running for a senatorial race is a different world from the Presidency world.

    Here is what I saw as I watch Senator Clinton.

    She says that she is running as a woman, and never once gave a speech on gender because white angry men would not be pleased by this.

    So patriarchy, or sexual discrimination, or the structural hierarchy of masculinity is never mentioned in her campaign. She never once mentions the unacceptable misogyny of this country, or the sexual hierarchy of the labor force or any of the inequities that define women’s lives today. What completely surprised me was her pandering to women, especially poorer women, while doing nothing to help us.

    I then did some research and realized that she has never spoken on behalf of women or as a candidate with a woman’s agenda, let alone as a feminist when she was in the White House. Her one speech addressing the exploitation of women was delivered in Beijing, China, as though it is ONLY women outside, but not inside the U.S. who face untold discrimination.

    Now she runs for president and has become a gun-toting, war mongering woman who asks for your vote if you are an angry white Reagan Democrat. Maybe she thinks manly gender is the answer for breaking glass ceilings for women. I would argue that she is not breaking gender boundaries but rather has embraced and extended masculine/misogyny for females. She remains female in body and hence parades as a decoy for feminist claims.

    Hillary has simply clothed herself in men’s tactics and strategies. She can nuke with the best of them. Hillary not only authorized the war in Iraq but she repeatedly continued to do so for several more years—up until the time she began running for president. She allowed, along with Bill Clinton, the egregious trade blockade against Iraq as hundreds of thousands of children starved to death after the `91 war. She more recently has supported Israel’s terror
    bombing of Lebanon and has newly endorsed “the total obliteration” of Iran.

    Hillary’s embrace of a masculinist machismo embraces the very misogyny that most women would like to see dismantled.

    Instead of challenging the gender divide Hillary simply slides over to the other side of it. Instead of offering a new vision of what it might mean to have a female President she offers us old versions of war mongering. All of these things that Hillary continues to do protect the structural privilege of patriarchy.

    Being female is not enough to allow one to claim their gender as a political tactic. Such claims must be rooted in a commitment to end gender discrimination and their class formulations; not pit races and classes against each other in the hopes of being the first woman president.

    Hillary has a female body but she first needs to claim that body and demand rights for it — reproductive, day care, health, education, etc. She looks like a woman but is not a feminist nor does she speak for or on behalf of most women. Hillary has her own agenda and she’s just using women as a stepping stone.

    We, women, are so excited about her being a woman that we have put on rose colored glasses and have not taken the time to really listen and hear what she is saying with her actions. Actions speak louder than words.

    Comment by Paulette | May 20, 2008 | Reply

  2. Hi Paulette:
    Thanks for your perception. Even though she might not be a true feminist (a true feminist would have kicked her cheating husband out the very first time) I still think that as a potential president, not withstanding her gender, she would be very very competent. She is experienced after all. I also do not believe she is gun toting and that she really cares for religion. But as a candidate in this country, she realizes she could not fight with the masses. Look what happened to John Kerry. Hillary had to go easy on the white middle class guys, so as not to scare them.
    I do not agree with her stance in the war 6 years ago; she was wrong just like millions of Americans.
    I for one was against this irresponsible war from day one…
    Anyhow, I am speaking from a matter of who I think is the most experienced, competent and emotionally prepared for such a demanding job.
    Peace and Love,
    Grace

    Comment by brasilmagic | May 20, 2008 | Reply

    • Hi ,
      My name is Henry Jon,Just a little note to tell you, I like your profile. I hope you like mine.I will no longer be a member of this site in a couple of days so if you are interested in corresponding you can contact me.. Via My Personal Email .henryjon2008@yahoo.com

      Comment by Henry jon | November 8, 2010 | Reply

  3. Hi, I just have a quick question. Is there any specific reason you felt the need to put the word “moral” in front of “atheist”?

    Comment by Sisyphus Fragment | April 1, 2009 | Reply

    • Yes Sisphus. Although I call myself an atheist, I added the word moral because for some people, who have not stopped to think about this whole religion lie, people who don’t believe in god are usually immoral, amoral, liars, cheaters, dysfunctional, perverted, dishonest and all the bad things under the earth. So I am trying to make it loud and clear: morals are not exclusive to religion!
      Thanks!

      Comment by Grace Farrell | May 14, 2009 | Reply

  4. Hello Very good website.Just wondering if you know of any good marriage introduction agencies in Brasil.I am very interested in the Belo Horizonte area. Muito Obrigado. Don Bommer

    Comment by Don Bommer | July 16, 2009 | Reply

    • Don, I do not, but you can probably google them. Also, there are many online dating websites there where you can contact prospective partners.

      Comment by Grace Farrell | July 16, 2009 | Reply

      • hello am Henry Jon and i love your profile here and am ready to have you as love so you can get back to me directly to my mail..
        Regards

        Comment by Henry jon | November 8, 2010

  5. Hi,
    Just wanted to say thank-you for your well written article. Several months ago I moved in with my gaucha girlfriend and I am going out of my mind trying to understand her. Your article has helped me understand that some of the things I am doing is really offending her. But, do you know anything in Portuguese I could give her to help her understand me? Maybe you could write a quick article like that for your readers.
    thanks- Mark

    Comment by Mark | October 1, 2009 | Reply

    • Mark, if an article or email can help her understand American men and help your relationship I will try to send you something. Cheers!

      Comment by Brasilmagic | October 2, 2009 | Reply

  6. Muito obrigado! Um artigo para as brasileiras entender nos americanos seria otimo!

    Comment by Mark | October 2, 2009 | Reply

  7. Could you write something on American women dating Brazilian men? I’ve seen alot vice versa but nothing on the American woman and Brazilian man relationship.

    Comment by Amanda | October 28, 2009 | Reply

  8. Hello Ms. BrasilMagic,
    what is your reaction to the 7 year old carinival queen, Julia Lira

    http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap_travel/20100205/ap_tr_ge/lt_travel_brief_brazil_carnival_preteen_queen

    I really enjoy learning about Brazilian culture through your blog.
    Thanks

    Comment by Joanne | February 6, 2010 | Reply

    • Sorry for taking so long to answer you. I do think Brazil oversexualizes young girls. Young girls in Brazil follow fashion and wear lipstick from an early age. Surprisingly, we are not a nation of pedophiles! Women are sexualized in general, so it goes unnoticed that girls as young as 7 try to dress sexy. Put it this way: Brazilian girls are raised to be females. To attract men. There’s a good side of that (looking feminine, and a bad side: devaluation of women as sexual objects). So, I think the carnival girl is pushing the boundaries.

      Comment by Brasilmagic | September 30, 2010 | Reply

      • Sex has one natural end result, pregnancy. 7 years old is too young to have a child. Love and respect is what we lack in relationships. Love is what we should preach,not sex. When you grow older, you will realize that you have wasted your life on the pursuit of sex. Grow up and learn to love.

        Comment by Todd Chavey | February 19, 2011

  9. Hi,

    I’d like to say that I really enjoyed reading your blog. I’m Brazilian, living in California (Sacramento) for 1 year and 1/2. I’ve been experiencing the culture shock… and it hasn’t been easy. 🙂 So, I could relate myself to the “Difference between cultures: USA and Brazil” post. I’m a social scientist and topics related to culture and social behavior always grab my attention. I also have to admit that I would wear my speedos here in America. What is wrong in being ok with your body?

    Thank you!

    Douglas

    Comment by Douglas | June 15, 2010 | Reply

    • Douglas, rock that speedo! We need more men willing to bring it back! Fitted pants for men are already making a comeback (thanks Brandon Flowers, Mad Men and Shia LaBoeuf in “Wall Street 2”.

      Comment by Brasilmagic | September 30, 2010 | Reply

  10. Hi! Your blog is amazingly interesting, and I’ve decided to use it as a source for a project on Brazilian and American cultures. I would really appreciate an e-mail from you to discuss this. Thank you so much! Keep up the great work.🙂

    -Leslie
    lesliearaujo@ymail.com

    P.S- What is your name? I would love to use you as a primary source for my project, if you don’t mind.:)

    Comment by Leslie | September 30, 2010 | Reply

    • Thanks Leslie. I’ll send you an email with my full name. I don’t see any problems in you using it for your project (but please correct any grammar; English is not my first language).

      Comment by Brasilmagic | September 30, 2010 | Reply

  11. Hi! Im brazilian and I’d like to know the differences about the american states it’d be very interesting!

    BTW I really enjoyed this blog!

    =)

    Comment by Angelica Bianca Baccin | January 21, 2011 | Reply

    • Angelica, I only lived in North Carolina, Indiana, Maryland and Virginia (DC area), so I can’t tell you much about the other parts of the country. I think Miami is more like Brazil, sans crime and more organized, cleaner. Los Angeles is also more latin oriented, but it has very bad traffic, and it’s very expensive. Of course the warmer temperatures in Cali and Florida make people be more open, more outgoing. The Northern states are probably more of a cultural shock for Brazilians. As for the area I live in, the DC metro area, it is very very diverse. There are few “typical Americans”, meaning the White Anglo Saxon traditional men and women, and a lot of Hispanics, Asians, Middle Easteners and Africans. You don’t feel foreign in this area because everyone is from some place else and everyone has an accent, ha ha. I believe New York City is the same. The Washington DC metro area besides being very diverse is also very educated, with hordes of people working for the Federal Government, the Embassies and the World Bank. Lot’s of PhDs, medium to high incomes. Expensive place to live too.

      Maybe our other readers can enlighten you on the other areas of the US. I have heard Seattle and Portland are nice, high education, liberal and secular areas to live.

      I would not live in the deep South unless I made a lot of money. The mentality is very backwards.

      Comment by Brasilmagic | January 21, 2011 | Reply

      • True. I am from Brazil also and my husband is from the deep south, but his mentality is completly different from his family’s. We both hated it there. Now we are in a nothern state and we just go to the south when we have to visit his parents.:-/

        Comment by Raysa | November 23, 2012

  12. Hi,

    I just stumbled upon your blog doing a search one day for information on brasil. I have to say I’ve enjoyed what I have read so far. Of course you hear all the “fantasy” like experiences that men experience going to brasil, but it’s good to hear a realistic take and that from a woman as well, to bring everything into perspective.

    I lived in latin america in my younger years I intend on going back after i finish my studies. I’ve always viewed brasil as a place that is a bit more “economically stable” if you will, than the other nations of latin america. As such I’ve viewed it as a possible place to live in the future. But now I’m just rambling. I enjoy the site and I’ll definitely be returning here to learn more.

    cheers.

    Comment by Devin | January 30, 2011 | Reply

  13. I just want to say “muito obrigada”. Keep it up!!!

    Comment by bella | May 17, 2011 | Reply

  14. I have been reading this stuff for a while now and i guess it is time to put my 2 cents in. I am a 34 yr old American man and i have been married to a paulista for 3 years now and my brother has been married to a girl from goihas for almost 4 yrs and i am here to tell you it is the best thing that has ever happened to me, i was married b4 and have a almost 14 yr old daughter that is in Germany, her mom married a military man so that is why she is there. I will say that in the beginning it was all sunshine and fun but after awhile real life started in and things were hard but this is true with any marriage. I am uneducated and when i was young i ran in a gang, stole, cheated and abused drugs and lost alot because of it. my wife has a college degree in psycologia and still is in school and is a nanny. she comes from a upper middle class familia and it seems her whole family is educated, successful, bilingual and most importantly very kind. we have so so many differences in upbringing, culture, ideas and attitudes but we have one thing in common, and its the most important thing of all LOVE. it does not matter where u come from, how much u make, social status or even compatability, what matters is your own personal willingness to compromise and continue, without this very simple and essential virtue “compromise” any relationship is bound to drown. my wife told me something that stuck with me and that is that Life is simple, but people complicate things. She is correct! Any man looking to be in a relationship with a brasileira is in my opinion a very lucky individual, and just a word to the wise. No man will ever find a woman like the ones from this beautiful place. i have been there several times and i know first hand that for a GOOD MAN brasil has the best women in the world bar none. Eu Amo Brasil!!!

    Comment by RichiRich | March 21, 2012 | Reply

    • Very nice Post!

      Comment by Brasilmagic | January 9, 2013 | Reply

  15. So glad to find your blog. I’ve been living in US (Avondale, PA) for 1 year and 3 months… so though…

    Comment by Hearts and Minds | April 2, 2012 | Reply

  16. Hello there my name is Denise and my email is denisbakers@gmail.com. I would like to ask your permission to place your very interesting article about brazilian wife on my brazilian marriage website. Please send me an email with your permission or restrictions.
    Thank you very much!

    Comment by Denise | January 9, 2013 | Reply

    • Sure Denise, feel free!

      Comment by Brasilmagic | January 9, 2013 | Reply

    • Thank you!

      Comment by Denise | July 4, 2013 | Reply

  17. Hi ! I am an American, have been studying Portuguese, with the hopes of traveling to Brazil, someday, possibly retiring there. So, your blog is very informative. I do have questions about Brazil, and I’m in touch someone there who teaches me, but you have real depth in your essays, so I enjoy your site. I love bossa nova music, that is my passion, and I am a composer, and one of the main reasons I want to learn the language to be able to someday write my own lyrics in Portuguese. I have music released by the Artist, “Bianca Rossini”, just google her for more info. The language is so beautiful ( but, of course, it depends on who is talking ! ). Abraços !

    Comment by Patrick | April 25, 2013 | Reply

  18. I love this blog and Would love to have an interview with you to tell about my new website.

    The fact I am a Brazilian lady married with an American man, many American men asked me if I had any nice and beautiful Brazilian girl friend to introduce to them. I am Personal Trainer here in Tampa which made much easier to the gentlemen ask me more and more about the Brazilian ladies.

    So, I decided to open a website to help single foreign gentlemen from all over the world to find his dreamed Brazilian lady. My website http://www.amoBrazilian.com is not just another regular dating website.

    Our several options of entertainment in my website, allow couples to learn their affinities and as in many cases, find their soul mate separated by distance.

    This modern, fun and exciting approach vehicle has promoted the gathering of many different souls who has not find the match in their own countries and decide to take a chance going to the Brazilian ladies, which are so well knowing as a wonderful wives due their loyalty, natural beauty, intelligence, honesty, femininity and family oriented culture. The Brazilians bring a lot of passion, joy, and fun in their husband’s lives.

    Please allow me to introduce it to you and I would love to have an article about myself and my business if you would like to !

    Thank you very much.
    http://www.amobrazilian.com
    Denise Baker .(amobrazilian@gmail.com)

    Comment by Denise | June 30, 2013 | Reply

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    Comment by Dana | January 31, 2014 | Reply


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