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Over-40 Childless Folks

Disclaimer: as with all my posts, there are always exceptions to the rule and this is only MY OWN observation. Others may have a completely different view:

There are many circumstances why people don’t have children. Some people never wanted children, and that is a personal preference that needs to be respected. Others never had the opportunity nor was it a goal in their lives. Others threw themselves into their demanding careers and never thought about having children (sometimes regretting it later). Others wanted to have a free and hard partying lifestyle, and settling down with one person and being unable to enjoy life for maybe 2 decades seemed like hell on earth.

Whether it was a personal decision or just life circumstances, adults who never had children differ a bit from others from my observation:

First, having not gone through the stages of parenthood and all the sacrifice it entails, people over 40 who never had children seem to have a more selfish lifestyle. They are not used to care for others, only for themselves.  They don’t have to think what someone else wants to eat, take them here and there, take care of them when they are sick, change diapers and stay home while their friends are partying. They party well into their 50’s and 60’s as if they were still 25. They relate better with younger people who have no family obligations. Their lives have no structure: they don’t have regular meal times and tend to go to bed very late and sleep in. They are used to living alone and resent sharing their space or personal belongings. When in a relationship, they usually make decisions that don’t involve the other person, since they don’t have the habit of considering others’ needs.

People without children tend to have more pets, often dogs or cats who they treat as their kids. They also tend to spoil their nieces and nephews-people with children don’t often do that with theirs. On the other hand, while people without children may become more selfish over time, they sometimes also feel the need to assist others more-which is a good thing. It may derive from their need to “father” or “mother” someone, to nurture. Finally, people without children seem to invest more time in charities and causes-often a substitute for taking care of children, and sometimes like to work in professions that involve children (think headmistresses, clergy, nuns).

There is no right or wrong way to live one’s life. To have or not to have children is totally an individual choice, but there are some differences in the way people live and act.

August 22, 2013 - Posted by | Lifestyle, Psychology, Relationships

3 Comments »

  1. love it!

    Comment by Nasha | August 22, 2013 | Reply

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    Comment by nofaithpoet | August 27, 2013 | Reply

  3. I agree with most of your statements, but have to differ with you concerning childless adults keeping a regular schedule. Those of us who have JOBS pretty much are required to keep set hours or we will no longer have jobs! The spectre of unemployment is enough to keep me early to bed and early to rise. I also have to quibble concerning relationships, as I am a very generous and caring man and would never make a decision on my own that would affect the relationship. Maybe i’m just odd that way. 🙂 Otherwise, you’ve written a very thoughtful piece, and I look forward to reading more of your posts! Well done.

    Comment by kevinmfromfl | August 28, 2013 | Reply


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