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Women and Education

What is the most important tool for the empowerment of women? Education. Education is the path to better paid jobs which can make women become independent, not victims. Education can also be training or access to information, which in turn may facilitate professional success.

It is sad to see women all over the world depending on somebody else for their survival. Is it sad to see how women accept things they would normally not accept if they had enough money to support themselves. It is sad to see women in abusive marriages afraid of leaving because they don’t know how they are going to feel themselves and their children. We’ve come a long way, but there are still stories of dependence in every part of the world, especially in the Middle East.

Stories of dependence exist here In the United States, as well as in other so-called Western civilized countries. The very traditional values imposed by men and for men through Evangelical congregations particularly in the American Red States make women stay home and make babies (Quiverfull movement). The more babies they have, the more dependant they are. Decades ago Catholic Ireland followed the Pope’s commandments against birth control, so Irish Catholic families had at least 3 or 4 children. These women would have to put up with philandering husbands, out of wedlock children, alcoholic and abusive husbands. There was no way out.

Women who make their own money look, feel and live differently. They have a much higher self esteem, they act more confident, and they do whatever they want with their lives, including deciding to live it at its fullest.

In that respect, why do many young women still choose “female professions”, or “find-a -husband degrees”? Are they afraid of the hard work that comes with more challenging degrees such as engineering and medicine? Do they have more problems with math which makes them avoid more scientific professions? Do they think they will go to College but then settle down with a man who will take care of them? The truth is that women still choose careers that pay less. Society has to encourage girls to take on the harder subjects and to enroll in more scientific and lucrative fields at school.

In Brazil, raising girls to be mothers and wives has always always been more pronounced than in the USA and Western Europe. Girls are encouraged to take ballet lesson and have more feminine actitivities. Not many girls get into competitive sports as in the USA.

With each generation that has passed though, things have gotten better. My mom’s generation was marriage first and maybe a job to complement the household income. I remember growing up and hearing “her salary is for her cosmetics”. The woman was not expected to be a major bread winner. My generation mixed both career and motherhood a lot better, but we still took a sidestep to our husband’s careers. We grew up thinking we would have a man’s protection, and that marriage would provide us with stability.

Not anymore. I suspect the new generations coming out of high school know they will have to fend for themselves. They’ve witnessed their parents’ divorce, and they’ve been through recession periods when the breadwinner sometimes has to be the woman. Furthermore, the role of men has changed. They are much more involved with childcare, and they split in half housework, carpooling, care giving. The truth is, only women can bear children, and women are no doubt more involved in a child’s early infancy. To expect them to suddenly become as successful as men is to disregard the biological and gender differences. However, there are three things parents should teach their daughters:

1) Only have as many children as you can afford;
2) Choose more competitive careers; don’t be afraid of trying male territory;
3) Never assume a man will take care of you for the rest of your life. There is death, divorce, unemployment and disease.

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April 11, 2011 - Posted by | Being a woman, Difference between cultures, Society

2 Comments »

  1. The side effect is now women are now taking advantage of men. They had a report that showed that women are out graduating men and all the feminist feeds were bragging about that. I thought feminsim was about equality not revelling over doing better than men. It’s no surprise that women are doing better since this society is misandrist and gives breaks to women left and right. Having said that I wish men would stop depending on women since most services that women provide can be paid for with out the baggage. Women need that emotional connection way more than men, so I hope their career are worth being old and lonely

    Comment by Anon | May 18, 2011 | Reply

  2. In the community I grew up in, women who did not work would either fall into three different categories:

    1. Very wealthy women who spent their time shopping, working out or in the salon (very small minority)
    2. Black or Hispanic welfare moms (obviously treated with GREAT sustain by the more mobile in society)
    3. Working class women who had to sacrifice income and assets in order to make do on their husbands salary (again, regarded as trash by the higher-ups)

    A good education and a career is essential in modern American society (especially LA where I live). If you do not have a degree from a reputable school, a professional career and the appropriate lifestyle accessories, than you should blame people who treat you like garbage. You reap what you sow, and if you reap laziness, than you will end up living in shit as you should.

    Comment by Lena | June 9, 2011 | Reply


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