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Ten dating TIPS for men from a Brazilian woman

Here are some tips for guys to consider when asking a woman out. Not every woman will agree with me, since not every woman has the same needs or tastes, but I think some of these listed below may ring a bell with many ladies out there. Even if you are not well off or good looking, these pointers may help you get the second date, and the third and the fourth.

Some dating websites tell men to act like a jerk to make women hooked on them. If you want to attract dysfunctional women, go ahead. If you want to attract smart, emotionally healthy women with their heads tightly screwed to their shoulders, this is a start. This advice is not for the first time you meet (such as in a party or event), and neither for those meeting for the first time through online dating. This advice is for when you already established there is chemistry and interest and you want to go into dating territory as opposed to flirting or friendship.

1) When asking a woman out for a formal date, ask her what kind of food she likes. Choose a restaurant that is closer to her house. Offer to pick her up. If she doesn’t feel comfortable with you, she will drive herself there, but if she doesn’t see you as a threat and has reasonable knowledge about you, where you live, your job, etc, she will like being pampered and the evening will start with an air of romance.

2) Dress accordingly. If it’s dinner, try to look sharp. Dark clothes (slacks and a jacket, or a black top) always make every man instantly more clean cut and elegant looking.

3) Clean short nails (please no nail polish) and a good haircut. If your hairstyle is long, make sure it is clean and smelling nice.

4) Wear nice cologne, enough that she can smell it on you without making her sick.

5) Your car needs to be extremely clean inside. It doesn’t matter what car you have, believe me. If you drive a top of the line car and it is dirty and messy inside, it will be a major turn off. If you take pride in your old Honda she will see you as neater and more reliable.

6) I don’t have to tell you what a mood killer it is for you to be late, even 5 minutes late. She will see that as lack of interest from your part. Remember women need to be desired and wanted. That makes her want you more too. If she feels she is just one more date, one more woman in your little black book, she will see you the same way. Make her feel special.

7) No matter how rich the woman is or how high powered her job is, pay the bill. Don’t just offer to pay. Pay it. Do not let her pay and ignore her attempts to pay. Old fashioned? Yes, but completely based on biology. Again, the woman will feel protected by the man. Even if in practical terms she can afford her half. It also creates an aura of romance. Do you have to pay every subsequent dinner/lunch/show/night out? It all depends on your incomes. If she has a good income and can afford your lifestyle, you should split the bill or alternate paying the bill. If you make a lot more than her, always pay. Unless you want to go eat at Chipotle every time.

8) Do not even glance at another attractive woman while with her. That is in sync with advice #6. You may succeed in making her feel insecure (if that is your way to have a hold on her, think twice-it will backfire later: you will have a jealous and needy girlfriend). Make her feel you have no interest in other women but her. That you are besotted and entranced by her. If you are not, rethink the whole thing. Maybe this is not for you.

9) Do not pour your heart out about all your romantic misadventures. Do not badmouth women as a gender (ouch!) and do not say your ex was crazy. Some men call all women crazy; maybe because they treated them awfully…think about it. If you were married, avoid saying your ex is a “B”. The new date will envision a lifetime of having to deal with a jealous awful ex from hell in her life. If you have problems with your ex-wife, these issues can come to light as your relationship matures. Do not scare her in advance.

10) If your ex left you or cheated on you, don’t tell your new romantic partner. That makes you seem like a loser in her eyes (unless your date is the type that likes to protect poor little me’s who suffered in the hands of the bad witch). This is also something you can tell her over time and when there is more trust.

There are more tips we women can give you guys about dating, romance, relationships. But for starters, think about these 10. And good luck.


January 20, 2011 - Posted by | Relationships


  1. Hi! Very good your blog! It is interesting to read about how women are Brazilian. I’m liking the way you expose some of your ideas. Congratulations! The important thing is that you do not generalize. We’re so different. A big hug, Serena.

    Comment by Serena | October 17, 2012 | Reply

  2. Hello! I’m at work surfing around your blog from my new iphone 3gs! Just wanted to say I love reading your blog and look forward to all your posts! Carry on the great work!

    Comment by best dating | March 15, 2013 | Reply

  3. great put up, very informative. I’m wondering why the opposite specialists of this sector do not notice this.
    You must proceed your writing. I am sure, you have a great readers’ base already!

    Comment by and | April 19, 2014 | Reply

  4. Hi! I know this is kinda off topic however I’d figured I’d ask.

    Would you be interested in exchanging links or maybe guest authoring a
    blog article or vice-versa? My website goes over a lot of the same topics
    as yours and I think we could greatly benefit from each other.

    If you happen to be interested feel free to shoot me an email.
    I look forward to hearing from you! Terrific blog by the way!

    Comment by what are the chances of getting pregnant | April 24, 2014 | Reply

    • Sure, we should! I hardly write here but maybe I can get some motivation. Thanks.

      Comment by Brasilmagic | April 24, 2014 | Reply

  5. good advice thanks

    Comment by vlad | May 3, 2016 | Reply

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