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Marriage, Relocation and Long Commutes

101419-600-0-2A certain reality many of us have to endure in big urban areas is a long commute. I traded a 5 minute commute for a 45 minute commute. Yes, shoot me. Sometimes it’s more, depending on traffic conditions/construction/accidents/weather. Why would I switch a wonderful commute for a terrible one, masochism? A desire to live in the country? A much better job with better pay? None of the above. I remarried.

In the old days, people would get married in their early 20’s and build a life together. Whatever their career would be, they would have roots in one place. If the husband was sent to a different city, state or country, the wife would invariably leave her occupation to follow her husband.

Nowadays, with many couples meeting when their career is already consolidated, or when they have children from their first marriage, they are forced to move to an area where both can maintain their jobs-equidistant to each’s work.

That entails long commutes. Long commutes that shorten your life span, create health problems (especially back and hip problems), add to your stress, eat up your free time, prevent you sometimes from exercising and just plain drive you nuts.

Maybe our President should create a mandatory work-from-home-one-day-a-week policy for all office workers? There are so many of them in the Washington DC metro area! Imagine 1/5, or 20% less cars on the road each day.

We already have all the technology to work from home. Only firefighters, nurses, teachers, salespeople, security, doctors, dentists, cleaning crews, handymen, contractors and other in loco professions need to relocate every day. We also have technology for meetings, if that is an excuse for why office workers need to be at their offices.

There has been even a trend for “office” spaces in the suburbs with internet connections where people who work from home can meet.  Places near their homes where they can connect to other people and not feel so isolated. They can pay a small fee for using a workstation each day, or a monthly fee. Some folks have used the local Starbucks for that.

One, two days a week working from home. Seems like a smart idea for me.


August 31, 2009 - Posted by | Lifestyle


  1. American woman dating Brazilian man. I’ve heard through my boyfriend and a couple of my Brazilian friends of several examples of a married Brazilian couple where the wife and husband live in two separate towns. Is it very common or have I just paid undue attention to the examples?

    Comment by Amanda | October 28, 2009 | Reply

  2. Amanda, I never heard of it. It could be some isolated cases.

    Comment by Brasilmagic | November 12, 2009 | Reply

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